Do you think what you send your child to school in reflects you as a parent?

Do you think what you send your child to school in reflects you as parents?

Everyone knows what it’s like to get teased in school, whether it be for wearing glasses, being overweight, it could be anything. I was teased for my clothes, and how they didn’t match.

 

 

 

 

 

After I graduated High School I tried to pursue the child care field by getting a job at a daycare. My goal was to be a daycare owner, but I quickly grew unhappy with the other staff and how unprofessional they all were. I didn’t like the things they said about the children and parents, and I didn’t like the way they handled problems, among a bunch of other things, but I saw a Facebook post about it not being a big deal sending your child to school with mismatched clothing and I’m not sure If I feel that way.

Sending your child to daycare/school with mismatched socks or different color clothes can be cute and fun! Unfortunately I can’t tell you that I’ve never overheard the staff mention that the family must be either poor or not color coordinated sending their child with mismatched clothes. As much as I feel it is wrong to hear such an unproffessional statement, the judgmental people are everywhere!

Even in the ‘My child is gay?’ article, she expressed that her 5-year-old was right to be worried what others’ think. And the sad thing is, like with her story, for our toddlers to around 7, it’s the adults who bring attention to it.

But it only gets worse. All of those parents negativity rubs off in their children, and their children start learning to be hateful and mean. By the time they reach High School, they are a full-blown bully! Making it impossible for other children to enjoy the High School experience.

I feel bad for the parents that try to shelter their kids from this world of hate, only to have their child come home in tears.

What happened to teaching your child to “treat others the way you want to be treated” and other important values lost along the way?

Thoughts?

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One response to “Do you think what you send your child to school in reflects you as a parent?

  1. Lisa Hart

    The way a person dresses says a lot about them. Younger children may not have the skills necessary to choose the proper clothing or outfits that match. Older kids, especially high school students, use dress as a way of expressing themselves. Paradoxically, their dress shows their individuality AND their conformity to what’s “in.” The cost is an issue too, many kids (or their parents) cannot afford to keep up with the latest trends.

    Additionally, as clothing trends change, so do attitudes about what is and is not appropriate attire. If I tried to wear what many of today’s high school-aged girls wear to school, my parents would never have let me out of the house. Older, male teachers especially, are sometimes uncomfortable with the way young girls dress. It’s difficult to know where the line is between what’s fashionable and what’s acceptable. Much of what the girls wear today we would not have worn – i.e. underwear and bras purposefully showing, boots with sweat pants – we would have thought they looked like idiots. The short of it – people’s behavior and attitude are effected by what they wear. Think about it – if you are wearing a mini skirt and heels you probably feel sexy; jeans and a t-shirt more casual; a business suit more professional. We are talking about school – older kids should wear attire that is safe, weather appropriate, and a bit more modest than what they wear out. Many parents do and should feel that how their kid is dressed for school reflects them. If you send your five year old to school in shorts in February, then, yes, something is wrong there. However, if you send your little girl to school in a pink tu tu and orange tights, its probably because she likes that outfit and not that you are negligent. If you are in contact with your children’s teachers, they already know what kind of a parent you are, and will figure what most other parents will – it’s not worth fighting with a five-year-old over what to wear – they need to start making decisions on their own – and choosing their own outfit is a safe way to give them some independence and you some sanity. When in doubt, ask yourself three questions. 1. Is the outfit safe? Can they trip over it, get it caught on something, etc. 2. Is it weather appropriate? Are they going to freeze or get overheated? 3. Is it right for the classroom setting – modest enough not to cause a distraction or discomfort to others.

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